I love choking my partners until they almost pass out

[arod_fan]

Is it normal to want to choke someone until they pass out? Before I wouly just lightly squeeze around my partner's neck but lately I have been wanting to squeeze harder and harder. I watch porn where the women are strangled until they start to change colors and lose consciousness and it gets me off. Is it normal tho? Is hurting someone that much normal?

[bikeboy37]

We can all have kinks and desires that border on violent and harmful. That's okay and you shouldn't feel ashamed or feel like there is something wrong with you. Of course, if you get these urges for violence outside of controlled sex play obviously seek some sort of help. Don't meant to be a downer but just have to put that out there. I was part of a BDSM circle and had a sub who loved to be choked. We worked together to build up her tolerance and find her sweet spot--that point where she was lmost about to pass out but didn't. It's tricky and takes a lot of patience and expertise.

[averagej0e]

If you are stil new to choking, I would recommend finding someone more experience that you can practice on. Someone who has been both the choker and chokee. Choking can be dangerous and cause permanent damage. Death too, and it IS possible to sex choke someone enough to kill them, even accidentally. So yeah don't go into this lightly. If you get off on that that's cool, but understand and respect how dangerous it is.

[marcia_marcia_marcia]

I dated a guy once who loved to choke. I wasn't super keen on it so I wouldn't let him choke too hard. I can see why you like it, there's an element of control there. Def make sure you have a partner who is comfortable and into it. Even better: find someone who really gets off on it. That way it isn't as one sided.

[arod_fan]

Thanks for the advicce. I haven't found anyone yet who is super into choking but youre right I should probably find someone who can show me the ropes. I don't want to hurt anyone. Glad to know I'm not gross or wrong for likiing choking.

[uninvoked]

Just make sure that your partner is into it as well first. And maybe you need to have a safe word in case she wants you to stop. Also you have to do research about it. You don't want to get into trouble because of it