I think I'm done with the hookup scene for good guys. I say it to my friends every time something gross happens but I am putting it here as a manifesto or whatever: I AM DONE. D O N E. Did I mention done? I'm so effing tired of guys thinking that because I want no strings attached or nothing serious that they can treat me like shit. Just because I don't want a relationshp doesn't meant you can treat me like trash. I've been lied to, talked down to, ghosted, gaslight. Pretty much everything you can think of. Not saying this applies to all guys and I've deffo met some cool guys here but in general: guys! get your shit together! All women (and people really) deserve respect, whether you are planning on marrying them or just want to bang them. Most recently I got ghosted YET AGAIN by a dude. And I told him up front like when you aren't feeling it anymore just tell me. And he told me he would, nodded his head like he understood and everything. Dunno why expected more because what did he do? Fuckin' ghosted me. Of course he did. This is why I'm done! /manifesto
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I'm done guys. Totally done.
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I can see why you wanan call it quits but also don't! As my mum always says, and I always roll my eyes, there are so many fish in the sea! These guys are all just eels. I've been pretty lucky, I get a mix of good ones and bad when it comes to hooking up. But you are right, there is this general feeling that because it's casual that means they can be rude. BUT. THAT. IS. NOT. WHAT. IT. IS. SUPPOSED. TO. MEAN.
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I've been in this exact same position and it is rough. I have met a few gems out there, guys who truly get it, who know how to treat a HUMAN BEING, not a hookup, but for as many good ones as there are out there you will find just as many bad. That's the real key too: this isn't about how you treat a random hookup or booty call. This is about how you treat a fellow human being. Guys thinking they can treat us like trash because we aren't they're girlfriends. Not cool!
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Damn sassy. I can see why you want to QUIT. That is no way to treat a lady, no matter what kind of situation you have set up with them. I always remember what my MOTHER taught me: treat others how you want to be treated. Keeping this in mind has been good throughout my life. It seems like it would serve a lot of others out there as well. Hope you make it through. PEACE
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Thanks all! I was mostly venting because I needed to get it all out for once. But also looking back and reading over all of your words, I think I should take a serious break. It is time for me to do me! First up: spa visit!
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Looks like everything is going well for you since you never ranted/vented again
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BeautifulCupful it sure looks like it
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Originally posted by sassy_lassy View PostI think I'm done with the hookup scene for good guys. I say it to my friends every time something gross happens but I am putting it here as a manifesto or whatever: I AM DONE. D O N E. Did I mention done? I'm so effing tired of guys thinking that because I want no strings attached or nothing serious that they can treat me like shit. Just because I don't want a relationshp doesn't meant you can treat me like trash. I've been lied to, talked down to, ghosted, gaslight. Pretty much everything you can think of. Not saying this applies to all guys and I've deffo met some cool guys here but in general: guys! get your shit together! All women (and people really) deserve respect, whether you are planning on marrying them or just want to bang them. Most recently I got ghosted YET AGAIN by a dude. And I told him up front like when you aren't feeling it anymore just tell me. And he told me he would, nodded his head like he understood and everything. Dunno why expected more because what did he do? Fuckin' ghosted me. Of course he did. This is why I'm done! /manifesto
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