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What if you met someone and they were all you wanted in another person. You got along well, had many of the same interests, they were your dream date or relationship partner, but . . . you aren't attracted to them, physically. For a long term relationship, what's more important to you, physical (sexual) attraction, or compatibility?
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Essentially, what I'm asking is . . . would you marry someone that you are NOT physically (sexually) attracted to? -
I find it hard for me to answer your question, I'm like caught in between. I think it's a no for me because when you are not attracted to a person you don't love him or her at all.Comment
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I'll choose compatibility than no attraction at all.Comment
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compatibility goes longer than any handsome face, I date someone for their personality not their looksComment
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I think sex would be so boring without sexual attraction. Sex should give both parties pleasure and satisfaction.Comment
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I think sex would be so boring without sexual attraction. Sex should give both parties pleasure and satisfaction.Comment
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I can't move forward without attraction I feel like I have married a robot for that reason. With compatibility it can go a long way and can progress into something.Comment
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yes i would marry someone i'm not attracted to physically, looks are so overrated anywayComment
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Not even slightly phsically attracted to?Comment
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Husbandisacuck if that's the case, then you might consider it as a forced marriage already -
See, there are many people who are in sexless marriages. And many people cohabit well together. A woman or man may marry someone that they are compatible with, meaning that they have common values and life goals, a high level of comfort with each other, shared experiences and the ability to have fun with each other.
The other person may not be what the other always wanted in a mate, (Tall dark and handsome . . . Skinny, blonde, big breasts) but the two will marry because there is enough common interests, and they cohabit well and are otherwise compatible.
This is not a forced marriage. And many marriages are like this. Outsiders often wonder if the people in these couples settled with what they were able to get, rather than what they really wanted. Yet, many couples will admit that although there is no physical (sexual) attraction, the relationship is still workable and good.
Many of these couples have sex regularly. Although the sex they have, or get, isn't the sex they want, these couples find ways to make it work. Many become swingers. Others form cuckold relationships. And some are platonic marriages. No matter the type of relationship, these couples are able to love each other, even though they are not physically (sexually) attracted to one another.Last edited by Husbandisacuck; 08-13-2018, 11:41 AM.
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There should be at least some physical attraction with the other person. Since what we're after here is more than just companionshipComment
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Not really sure if we're capable of that sort of thing since it is inherit for us to be with someone who we're attracted toComment
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I would choose compatibility than zero attraction.Comment
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How is it "inherit" for anyone to be with someone they are attracted to?Originally posted by XperiencedVirgin View PostComment
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I think most people get attracted before they get compatible with each other. These two are always together isn't it?Comment
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Attraction is, explicitly speaking, when you are sexually turned on by them. Compatibility is how well you get along with somebody based on countless personality variables. So, you can be totally compatible with someone and not be attracted to them, and you can be attracted to someone and not at all be compatible with them. -
Well said. But it always depends on what you both want. -
You can want to be attracted to someone that is attracted to you, but if you aren't attracted, you won't be. Agree?
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