Past is past or nah?

[HoneyHoney72]

Do you think that the past of your partner matters in a relationship? Or do you give more importance to the present?

[Cupcakeri]

If you really love the person, his/her past should never matter to you because love is also all about acceptance.

[halfSlut23]

Acceptance meaning even your partner is a whore in the past? lol

[TeaHoney]

halfSlut23 I guess that was what she meant.

[Cupcakeri]

halfSlut23 Yeah, even if he's a man whore, a prostitute or a stripper, if you love him, you will accept him.

[CupcakeComments]

For me, it does matter because I want to know the person I am committing myself to.

[fistingfatties]

Do you have trust issues? just asking

[CuddlyPac]

fistingfatties I think that is the case or she was just being careful.

[CupcakeComments]

fistingfatties No, as CuddlyPac have said, I was just being careful and cautious because I do not want to end up hurting myself.

[Danica505]

It really depends on the situation. Because sometimes there are things that have happened in the past that you can't easily ignore. For example being with someone who already has a child from a previous relationship. That is something that you can't easily ignore

[Kingso]

Am new here can someone hook me up

[newromance]

As much as you need to focus on the present, you also need to know about things about him or her that have happened in the past. Because what he or she is today is because of what have happened before

[Tastyblic]

I agree, at least you can have an insight on why he became the person he is today.

[XtineA]

If he keeps on comparing you to any of her exes, then you should be concerned with it and tell him that you find it offensive or you feel hurt when you compare you to his exes

[KellyEM]

Most people (I think) already know that being compared to an ex is something that you should never do since it would automatically lead into arguments

[XtineA]

KellyEM yes, dear I know that.

[TeaBroadway]

For me, the present is what matters most. The past already happened and there is nothing you can do about it.

[AudreyA]

Same with me.

[Vichie]

Yeah, because even if you know what happened to his past, there is no sense because you can't change it.

[Annalyn]

Yes, it should be a factor especially when it comes to your partners health. For example he or she should be honest with you if he or she has previous health issues whether it is mentally or STD's

[morelove]

I think it's a given that you have to be open to your partner when it comes to diseases like STD, TB and etc.

[Annalyn]

honesty101 Yes, I almost forget about that.

[Annalyn]

morelove Yes, that's what I was saying.

[rockmybedpls]

I agree with what Annalyn and newromance has said. There are things that happened before to you that your partner needs to know and vice versa. You don't need to always focus on the present

[1xz9]

Sometimes we cannot really control our emotions and we tend to look back at our partner's past relationships.

[Lookingforlovin]

For me, the past is past. I don't wanna make a big deal about my partner's past.

[fistingfatties]

The same goes for me.

[J3nnyTalia]

You have a trust issue if PAST is big deal to you.

[BeautifulCupful]

That is not called trust issue, that is called knowing your partner better.

[yumyum]

Yes it matters. If you know beforehand that he or she has been a cheater, then it is understandable that you wouldn't trust him or her with his or her every move

[merrygoround]

Guess that you believe that once a cheater, always a cheater?

[BuiltToLast]

I won't mind the pasts of a girl unless I am not the only lover. Lol

[BuiltToLast]

TastyLove Why did you think that?

[TastyLove]

Coz you said Lol in your post.

[BuiltToLast]

Just happy, I guess.